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When disagreement, blame or silence dominate a relationship , therapy is a chance to start communication. Neutral mediation serves as a window towards understanding the partner’s behaviour.
And one’s own reactions.
Equally important is to value one’s own self sufficiency and to be aware of one’s feelings. Couple therapy helps you understand which way to go. Once patterns become apparent, solutions begin to present themselves. Through a change of perspective relationships achieve a better balance.
Engagement in couple therapy may help determine that separation is the better way. Understanding the reasons why can aid in more amicable communication and a more respectful way of dealing with each other.
Massive fights, dramatic escalations, leading to sexuell conflicts, often find their cause in traumatic experiences in childhood.
Beating up, abuse, physical and emotional neglect, mentally ill parents, drug and alcohol abuse, fighting parents and loss of one parents due to death, separation or disease can lead to serious trauma in relationships.
This trauma is carried into a partnership and puts weight on both partners.
Separation seems to be the only solution when it comes to severe crisis. But if we look at the repetitive patterns in all the fights and try to understand what is really happening, we have a chance to understand the message in those fights. Once pain recedes, peace can return and love can flow again