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I can support you in my practice or online. In all cases personally and individually.

Monday to Friday, from 09:00 to 19:00

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RESOLVING COMMUNICATION ISSUES

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Women and men often have different needs when it comes to communicating with each other. Most of the time, women have a stronger need to exchange ideas, looking for an open ear and understanding. As a result, men feel called upon to find a solution, resolve conflicts on their own and therefore withdraw from the dialogue. As a result, one partner feels left out and threatened.

Marital problems arise when one partner expects the other to have the same need. One wants to speak, the other withdraws. Misunderstandings are inevitable and can put a great strain on a partnership.

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My support

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First, we will shed light on recurring patterns leading to the communication issue. Through this we will come across unresolved conflicts in the partnership. Calling them by their name is the first step to the solution.

Confronting conflicts is difficult because it means endangering the Status Quo, which deceptively appears harmonious. This is what makes open communication so difficult. When negative feelings arise, tension ignites on trivial situations.

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Learning Communication during Couple therapy

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Communication changes when we learn to formulate our own needs without escalating disputes. When we then experience that both partners are heard, a benevolent climate is created in which we can face our conflicts more easily. I will show you how to have conversations eye-to-eye without triggering each other’s negative feelings; conversations in which mutual appreciation and acceptance of very different perceptions are possible.

Contact us

Contact me now by e-mail or phone and tell me about your concerns. If I am not available, I will get back to you immediately and we can schedule an appointment for an initial consultation. As self paying clients, you can decide on the frequency and timing of the sessions.

Initial consultation

In an initial consultation, both partners have time to describe their situation. Most couples take 6-10 sessions to arrive at new agreements Initially, we may meet every 2 weeks. Then the intervals can be longer. Many couples return to me for a couple of sessions year after year.

Each session lasts 60-90 minutes, during which we take time to create a new experience.

Couples therapy

Couple therapy is based mainly on systemic humanistic and family therapy theories. I always allow my strong intuition to adapt to your individual needs. 

An in-depth psychological approach is especially important with trauma-sensitive couples. 

I will help you to overcome fears and obstacles in your life.

I am

Susan Mir.

alternative practitioner for psychotherapy

My expertise is to help you cope with personal problems, psychological load, stress and burnout.

My wish is to harmonise your feelings with your thinking and the actions you take.

My work applies a solution focused approach.

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Your questions about communication difficulties

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Misunderstandings, unclear statements and misinterpretations are communication problems that are most common in relationships. The main cause is unfocused listening.

Unfortunately couples who don’t share the same mother tongue language can also experience severe difficulties over time. Therapy is very effective in such cases. 

Pay attention to facial expressions and posture. Most of the time you can clearly see that a person is not listening or has a question. Talking together with a therapist can also help you determine if your partner has understood you over the time you have been together.

Stick to four basic building blocks:

  • Observations: Learn to listen and understand what others are doing without judgment.
  • Feelings: Talk about the feelings you are having, but matter-of-factly, without insulting, and make suggestions for improvement.
  • Needs: Both partners have needs, they do not have to match. It is more important to respect the needs of the other without neglecting your own.
  • Requests: Make personal requests without making generalizations. Forbid yourself the words “always” and “never”.

What my clients have expressed

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